This is relatively new for me, but I rather enjoy being a top. It's been good for building self-confidence for me and it's also been a good trust-building exercise within our relationship.

Admittedly, P&I are more on the BD side than the SM side and we're fairly vanilla within that crowd. Our social circle includes people of every shade of polyamory and kink--and even though neither of us really identifies as such, we just really like the openness within that group. They're fun ;)