Alright Already!
Apr. 8th, 2001 11:49 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
legalmooseWell, it appears I'm to have another sleepless night [insert appropriate expletives here], so I might as well write about the elephant in the corner (am I getting that phrase right? I can never remember, and it's too late at night to go look it up).
I am fine with the development of the relationship between D and MJT. I'm not sure that I'd travel across the country for someone, but that's D's decision and I support him in it. They both seem to be going into this with open eyes, and I am happy to see D developing another emotional relationship with which he's happy.
Of course I have feelings about it. I'm nervous that D'll like MJT more than me, that MJT will be a better person/lover/etc. than I am, that D'll be regretting his decision to stay in DC and take the job with the BGA when he could've moved almost anywhere other than here, etc., etc., etc. But we can deal with those fears and we will if they get to a point where they affect our relationship. As it is, I can look at them, tell myself how silly they are, get reassurances from D if I need them and keep going. I've put him through worse, to my deep embarassment.
What do I want out of this? I want D to be treated well. I want to have our relationship respected. I want all involved to understand where we all stand and to make sure that no one is getting trampled on. The good thing is so far I've seen no indications that the situation will be otherwise. I trust D to steer things in a mature way, and nothing I've seen of MJT leads me to believe that he'd be less than a gentleman in all of this.
I love D a great deal, and I want to see him pursue his polyamorous interests, just as I pursue mine.
Moose *&^)
I am fine with the development of the relationship between D and MJT. I'm not sure that I'd travel across the country for someone, but that's D's decision and I support him in it. They both seem to be going into this with open eyes, and I am happy to see D developing another emotional relationship with which he's happy.
Of course I have feelings about it. I'm nervous that D'll like MJT more than me, that MJT will be a better person/lover/etc. than I am, that D'll be regretting his decision to stay in DC and take the job with the BGA when he could've moved almost anywhere other than here, etc., etc., etc. But we can deal with those fears and we will if they get to a point where they affect our relationship. As it is, I can look at them, tell myself how silly they are, get reassurances from D if I need them and keep going. I've put him through worse, to my deep embarassment.
What do I want out of this? I want D to be treated well. I want to have our relationship respected. I want all involved to understand where we all stand and to make sure that no one is getting trampled on. The good thing is so far I've seen no indications that the situation will be otherwise. I trust D to steer things in a mature way, and nothing I've seen of MJT leads me to believe that he'd be less than a gentleman in all of this.
I love D a great deal, and I want to see him pursue his polyamorous interests, just as I pursue mine.
Moose *&^)
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Date: 2001-04-09 12:02 am (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2001-04-09 11:28 am (UTC)I love Mike (http://www.livejournal.com/users/mjtaylor/) unconditionally and want him to be happy, and also want him to be treated well and not be hurt. I trust he and D will be able to do that.
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Date: 2001-04-09 03:23 pm (UTC)Yeah, I suspect they will (be able to do that). Should be okay, just keep us all talking. Communications is the key to these things.