I'm So Confused

[legalmoose]

Another message this morning from yet another sub boy online who wants me to be their dom. That makes, what, three now? I really, really don't get what in my profile(s) online makes me look like I'm a dom. Might have to go see if Lambda has a copy of The New Topping Book if this keeps up.

It's not that I'm not willing to try this, but I'm just confused over how I seem to be attracting it of late...

Comments

[gnumoose.livejournal.com]

I'm getting the same thing Moose.

I make it very very clear in my profiles that I am NOT a SIR, but these geniuses call me Sir anyway.

sigh.

[legalmoose]

I don't have anything that explicitly says I'm not a dom, but neither do I have anything that (to my mind) screams that I am one. It's just so confusing...

[gnumoose.livejournal.com]

ayuh.

Ive seen your profiles and I sure don't get that impression from looking at them. Hmm, bizarre.

four

[ethereal-lad.livejournal.com]

You have a dominating personality. I humbly request to be the fourth sub, sir.

Re: four

[legalmoose]

See?!? They're everywhere!

[legalmoose]

*smack*

It's the snarl...

[robgates.livejournal.com]

Or maybe it's the Edna thing......she's pretty Dom :-)

Re: It's the snarl...

[legalmoose]

You mean this this one?

[joxn.livejournal.com]

The question is, why aren't they messaging me?

[legalmoose]

You don't live in DC?

[legalmoose]

Maybe it's the facial hair. ;-)

[spiritquest.livejournal.com]

You are at the very least an Alpha boy. You were meant to be in charge. Otherwise it probably won't get done right (Right?).

[legalmoose]

Hmm. That might be it (said the control-freak anal retentive type A attorney man), but I still don't see how that comes through in my profiles. :-/

[hylandr.livejournal.com]

Personally, I think it's because you look so intimidating.

[legalmoose]

Me? Intimidating? O_o

[hylandr.livejournal.com]

My point exactly. :)

shot in the dark

[deejayqueue.livejournal.com]

maybe it's vice versa, perhaps these are newbie subs who don't want the archetypal "leather daddy in chaps and vest with stogie and paddle" and see you as an easier way to ease into the leather lifestyle?

Re: shot in the dark

[legalmoose]

Hmmm, definite possibility there...

[scorpiocub.livejournal.com]

i'm pretty sure it's that LJ Icon of yours! *-)

[emeraldboy.livejournal.com]

Perhaps it's ever since you started using the Edna icon... could be a cry for the idea of a dominatrix with the satisfaction of sticking to guys.

...

Of course I may be the only one that sees her as a potential dominatrix... *grin*

[qnetter]

How can one *not* see her as one?!

[legalmoose]

Dahling, I'm sure I don't know what you're talking about.

;-)

Re: because i'm slow, and fairly prudish...

[qnetter]

Dominant/submissive -- generally aligns with top/bottom, but has more to do with dynamics than acts. I can, for example, be dominant in a relationship or interaction and order a submissive to serve me, even if that service, for instance, includes meeting my sexual needs in a way that, outside a dominant/submissive dynamic, may be labelled as "bottoming". (Does that make sense, or do I need to be more explicit re: body parts and orifices?)

[0595.livejournal.com]

I wanna be your sub boy!!!

[legalmoose]

"Hmmm," he said, as he pictured a certain other LJ icon of yours... *grin*

[acubpella.livejournal.com]

It's that A&F shirt pic taken from below. You look like a mean dominant type...

me

[acubpella.livejournal.com]

Although, on the contrary, you could have sub on your profile and have someone ask you to be their dom.